by Holly Boxenhorn | Jun 2, 2017 | Blog
What’s Holding You Back?
June 2017 Insights
What holds us back from living the lives we desire? Some people attribute their lack of having what they want in their lives to fate…the development of events beyond their control, that unavoidable befalls upon them. However, many people don’t like the concept of fate, because it negates free will, a concept most of us are certain we as humans possess. But what if neither the traditional concept of fate nor free will, really existed for most people? An unusual concept called self-fate helps explains why so many of us don’t have what we really want. (more…)
by Holly Boxenhorn | May 8, 2017 | Blog
The Secret To Thriving
May 2017 Insights
It’s not as hard as some would think. Yes, agreed life is challenging and often times complicated and downright messy but with the right “tools” and of course mindset every woman can live a life with greater ease and purpose. Going back many newsletters ago I referenced a great coaching tool called the Wheel of Life (can be seen below and available on my website to print out under the link titled Valuable Downloads), this wheel highlights 8 aspects of one’s life. Now working over 6 years as a women’s empowerment coach, I am able to confirm and know that the happiest and most successful women are those that attend to most aspects indicated on that wheel (a minimum of 6). Even if for some, those aspects, only consume an hour or two within their week. The objective here is to be present, “show up”, in as many of those “slices” of that wheel as possible. It’s not so much how much time one commits to these aspects but more importantly that they do. (more…)
by Holly Boxenhorn | Jan 1, 2017 | Blog
Keep It Real
January 2017 Insights
We each have our own unique way of learning, playing, living, and being. Greater success and happiness can only come when we are clear about who we are and what we value. Living our lives according to other people’s purpose is futile if we are truly seeking satisfaction and fulfillment within our own lives. The first step to accessing a thriving life is understanding what enhances the way YOU show up! (more…)
by Holly Boxenhorn | Aug 2, 2016 | Blog
CHOOSE TO!
August 2016 Insights
Many of us walk around feeling like we have limited choices in many aspects of our lives. Take notice of how many times in a day you say the words have to, should, and need to. Whenever you feel like you must do something, you’re a prisoner, a victim to your thoughts or circumstances. In fact, when faced with a task or something to do, there are five basic ways you can view them and only one is by full conscious choice. (more…)
by Holly Boxenhorn | May 1, 2016 | Blog
Energy is Everything!
May 2016 Insights
Everything is composed of energy, including our thoughts! The lenses you see the world through creates your reality. We all enter the world without an opinion or belief about anything. Through our entire lives, influences of the world help form our core beliefs, values, and filters through which we experience the world around us. As you are presented with situations, you pass them through the filters of your belief system. When they are in alignment, you judge them to be positive and good. When they go against your view, you may judge them to be negative or bad.
Example: In my family, there has always been an emphasis on the value of a strong work ethic. In the past when when I would find myself not working “full out”, my interpretation of this action would be that I am being lazy. When in fact there could be so many other reasons contributing to my actions (i.e. fatigue, disinterest, overwhelm, self-doubt, etc…)
As our beliefs and values become established, we function on “auto pilot,” until we begin to experience dissonance and question them. Since many of our beliefs and values are given to us by others, we have the opportunity to evaluate the degree to which they support or hold us back. As a result, we can choose to make adjustments that align our beliefs with our true selves.
If you view the world as an angry place, you will see situations and make interpretations that support your point of view. What you look for, you will find. Also…others with a similar point of view may be drawn to you. So if you notice you are surrounded by drama, explore what is drawing them to you. Where your focus goes, energy flows. This is actually the basis of the Law of Attraction!
Energy attracts like energy and basically in a nutshell there are two different types of energy we can experience, catabolic or anabolic….
Catabolic energy shows up in the form of stress. When we PERCEIVE a situation as being stressful, we may feel fear, doubt, worry, overwhelm, frustration, anger, resentment, or entitlement. When we are experiencing catabolic energy, our focus is on the pain or problem. Catabolic energy isn’t bad…It’s just an indicator of stress that is draining you. If you can get to the root of it, you can release it.
Anabolic energy is not stressful. It is healing, positive, supportive, and expanding in nature. This allows the body to optimize itself. As a result, it’s easier to maintain a solution focus, feel energized, and propel ourselves forward to new possibilities and opportunities.
As we go along our day we are exposed to a string of stimuli that has no meaning other than what our perception assigns it. How we view a situation will either create stress (catabolic) or not (anabolic). The key is to become aware of the lens (energy) we use, catabolic vs. anabolic, that supports us in order to move forward in the most proactive and opportunistic way possible, driving us to greater success and happiness.
Curious to know how your thoughts are creating your reality?
How great would it be to have the ability to see opportunities when others see problems, and to see what’s right, instead of what’s wrong?
Learn how to consciously recognize when you are reacting to life’s circumstances, even in the most challenging moments, and determine how you want to show up, catabolic or anabolically. Contact me today and discover a method where you can you identify any and all core beliefs that may be holding you back from what it is you want in and for your life.
Wishing You The Best Of Success
-Holly-
