What’s Holding You Back?

June 2017 Insights

What holds us back from living the lives we desire? Some people attribute their lack of having what they want in their lives to fate…the development of events beyond their control, that unavoidable befalls upon them. However, many people don’t like the concept of fate, because it negates free will, a concept most of us are certain we as humans possess. But what if neither the traditional concept of fate nor free will, really existed for most people? An unusual concept called self-fate helps explains why so many of us don’t have what we really want.

sabatogeSelf-fate is the idea that because our past is dominating our thought processes, and because most people are not consciously living in the moment, our past actually creates our future. Because we are making choices based on our past experiences, we cannot change our future unless the control of the past is removed, and we choose in the now. So self-fate really means that for most of us, fate does not exist, and we do not have free will. It is us who creates our fate because we are imprisoned by the past. We have pre-determined choices that we are programmed to make, and our past does the programming.

Think about a woman who is unhappy in her romantic relationships and says that she seems to meet the same kind of men over and over again. She complains that men are all alike and looking for the same thing. She believes that she’s never going to find a relationship that is mutual and fulfilling, as opposed to the relationships she’s had, where she’s been taken advantage of and under appreciated. It’s no wonder she feels this way, as she’s had many experiences that have created those beliefs. In fact, it’s quite normal that she believes what she does, which poses a real challenge- since she sees men as disrespectful, she emits that “energy”. And what is the end result of that energy? She perpetuates that belief system and then attracts those whose energy matches her beliefs: men who will take advantage of her. So inevitably she finds herself in dissatisfying relationships and will continue to do unless she intentionally creates a more effective belief system and changes how she is showing up in relationships.

The traditional concept of fate proposes that our lives are pre-determined by an outside source. Self-fate, however, is something that we control. This summer I am going to take a series of newsletters to discuss how we can reprogram our futures so that ultimately nothing can hold us back!

Wishing You Always The Best Of Success