August 2016 Insights
Many of us walk around feeling like we have limited choices in many aspects of our lives. Take notice of how many times in a day you say the words have to, should, and need to. Whenever you feel like you must do something, you’re a prisoner, a victim to your thoughts or circumstances. In fact, when faced with a task or something to do, there are five basic ways you can view them and only one is by full conscious choice.
When you say “I can’t” do something, your’e saying that you have no power, that life happens to you, no matter what you do or believe. You don’t believe that you have a choice. You also don’t really think there’s anything in it for you-so why do it?
If you say “I have to”, you’re looking at the short term perspective. You “have to” complete the task in front of you, or else you will experience dire consequences. You feel forced to do it, and that you have very little to no choice.
The third response, “I need to” is a more powerful place to come from. Here, you’re aware of your choices and you seek to find the opportunity in the challenges presented to you. This perspective brings more chance of success, but it’s still not optimal because you don’t feel like you’re fully at choice.
As you can see these responses involve either non-action, or action by force. Since you are not truly bought into a situation, goal, or project, and because you are bringing negative energy to it, you are also bringing a recipe for failure. Though you may think you are choosing to do something at your core, you’re choosing not to do it or at most not to do it well.
The next response, “I want to”, is more supportive because it indicates that you are mostly at choice. But. “want” still comes from a place of lack.
The most powerful response is “I choose to”. When you respond this way, you feel you have complete choice. There’s a powerful connection between who you are and what you do. So regardless of any frustrations or setbacks you may experience you choose to move forward, dig deep, and find alternative ways to ultimately achieve what it is you are aspiring for.
So how do you get to choose? Simply come from a place of having everything, and choosing to experience, rather than fill a need. Easy? Not at all, but you can choose to try it.
Always Wishing You The Best Of Success