Sick Of All The How To Set A Resolution January Blog Posts?

Sick Of All The How To Set A Resolution January Blog Posts?

by | Jan 5, 2024 | Blog

Perfect Read This Instead…

It’s January — and you know what that means… 

In line at the supermarket, you’re hit by all the articles on health and wellbeing. You’ll go back to the gym. Dust off that yoga mat (or Peloton). Write that book/see your best friend more/eat less carbs… 

You’ve got your resolutions. New year, new you, right? And you are on it. 

Sound familiar? 

Well, it might — in more ways than one. Because this is exactly how I started January’s blog post 2 years ago. 

So, why am I shamelessly repurposing old content — and drawing attention to it at that?! 

Well, for one simple reason… 

Every year, as the clock strikes midnight and the New Year rolls around, millions of us will resolve to reinvent ourselves. Because whether it be health, money, a new career, or just deciding to argue less (after a week of in-laws and hosting) one thing’s for certain…

This year will be better… 

And yet, by February, 80% of us will have broken (or forgotten) our New Year’s resolutions.

Well, being a women’s life empowerment coach (and a decade as a qualified psychotherapist before that) resolutions and goal setting are all too familiar to me. 

It’s why I can recognize the pressure you put on yourself not to fail every year… 

And I also know that — just like my opening paragraph — if you cast your mind back, chances are your goals this year, will be suspiciously similar to last year’s… 

So, why should we expect this one to be any different? 

Well, that’s why, I’m not about to give you even more strategies to set realistic resolutions — and stick to them. (And in fact, if that’s what you’re after, my YouTube lives back in December give you a 4-Part Recipe for Goal Setting Success.)

No, today is about knowing HOW to dismantle the limiting beliefs and disempowering assumptions that put you in a never ending loop of setting resolutions each year — and feeling crushed when you’ve ‘failed’ by February.  

Now, dismantling these gremlins is in fact, a HUGE piece of my work with women, but rarely do we apply them to goal setting or New Year’s resolutions. 

Which is a mistake, because in reality making this one simple shift can have a profound impact… 

Or, as Elizabeth Gilbert so eloquently puts it:  

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” 

Now, I love this quote because she calls out something we’re all too familiar with… 

In other words, until we’re genuinely honest about where we’re at in our lives — or able to call out the limiting beliefs and disempowering assumptions that are holding us back — how can we ever hope to put our goals into action? 

So, what does that look like in practice? 

Well, let’s take one of the most popular resolutions I see women make in January (after all the baked goodies, champagne and eggnog has settled). 

Yes, you guessed it: Losing weight. Getting fitter. 

Or (as I like to call it) feeling more vibrant.  

Now, your limiting beliefs around this might look something like, ‘I’ll never swim 30 lengths of the pool’ or ‘I’ll never feel as fit as I did in my 20’s.’ 

But here’s the deal: if from the outset you let that negative narrative chip away at you how can you ever possibly achieve that goal? 

The same works for any resolution you make — that new career, the house move, even worrying less about your children. The fact is none of these are remotely achievable, if you know, deep down you’ll talk yourself out of it.

But there is something you can do about it… 

How To Conduct a Visioning Exercise 

The truth is, negative self talk can quickly spiral. Seriously, how many times in your life have you become stuck, and rigidly hold onto things, or pooh-pooh away any choices you may have?

Well, that’s all it takes to break a resolution. 

That’s why when they’re spiralling, I ask my clients to write a list of the most outlandish things they can think of for this second half of life. Because, now more than ever, it’s important to remove a sense of reality from the situation. 

For example:

Want to swim 30 lengths? Why not do a triathlon!

Want to learn French? Move to Paris for 6 months! 

Want to travel more? Take up skydiving while you’re at it! 

Seriously, the trick is to go to town on this. Because so much of our stuckness comes from rigidly clinging onto narrow choices. But when we bust that open, a world of possibilities emerge…

And suddenly you’ll realize this year’s resolution to wear your bikini on that dream trip to the Maldives really isn’t that outlandish at all… 

You’ll STOP flatlining your possibilities or settling for mediocrity…

And what’s more, you’ll never again risk seeing yet another year come and go — or watching your resolutions go up in February smoke. 

XO

Holly

P.S. If this post struck a chord, and you’d like more exercises to strengthen your resolution and resolve — here are 2 things you can do next:

  1. Watch my YouTube lives with Lucie Q — and discover the 4-Part Recipe to map out your vision, set effective goals, uncover why they fail and dodge those midlife curveballs. 
  2. Download Your Free Values Assessment. This will help work out what your real, true values are, and kickstart your ‘Why’ — all super crucial to keep your resolutions on track.

     

     

     

     

    How do we know what’s right for us NOW in midlife?

    How do we know what’s right for us NOW in midlife?

    by | Nov 9, 2023 | Blog

    A Seven Step Prescription For an Experimental Mindset in Midlife

    Now, if you’re reading this I’m assuming you’re the kind of woman who’s regularly looking for new ways to up her game—and feel fitter, happier, and more contented in your life? 

    But, in your never ending search for more, do you ever feel like there’s just too much out there? 

    And I mean ‘too much’ in the way of…  

    What you should be doing? 

    How you should be exercising? 

    What you should be eating? (Not to mention all the scary conditions just waiting round the corner, that make you feel like staying under the covers.)

    Well, how the heck should we know what’s right for us, and take a balanced approach to staying healthy and well —

    Or even get into our good place (the magic) ✨ with everything that’s going on?

    Well, THAT was the exact question I was asked on a podcast recently, and it’s something I’ve been mulling over ever since. 

    Because although I do my damndest to pull back the curtain on midlife, and help women uncover the right path for them, even I feel bombarded by all the ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ out there…

    But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: the key to tell what’s right for you, and uncover your truest sense of self, is to embrace an experimental mindset. 

    Now before you stop and say, ‘Holly, I just don’t jive to that! I want absolutes, not more things to try out!’ 

     … Just hear me out for a second. 

    Because the truth is you’re going to have to embrace this if you want to figure out what really lights you up in life.

    So that’s why I came up with my 7-Part Prescription for an Experimental Mindset.

    (And yes, I called it ‘prescription,’ because if you’re feeling resistant—it’ll make it easier to swallow. Plus it’s exactly what the doctor ordered. So here’s what that looks like:

    1. Investigate

    Start by thinking about those people who are in alignment with your value base*, your personality and what lights you up. Follow them on social media, read their books, listen to their podcasts, watch their films. 

    Then…

    2. Choose

    In other words, based on your intuition and what feels right for you—pick an idea or strategy to try on for size.

    Now, the beautiful truth here is we’re so much wiser now! And SO DONE with anything that no longer serves us. And yes, it’s time to get ruthless. Delete the feed from the 20 year old doing lunges, or the influencer in hotpants that makes you feel inadequate. 

    And instead replace them with inspirational women. Women who embody who you are, and where you want to go. Trust me, it’ll serve you in the long run… 

    3. Experiment

    This is all about establishing your strategy. Not sure what that is? Take advice from friends, your doctor, people you respect—in other words, people who you know have your best intentions at heart. 

    (And if you’ve been thinking about trying that plant-based diet, or taking up pickleball? Now’s the time to do it…)

    4. Listen to Subjective Feedback

    The crucial thing to remember here is any new start will (probably) feel sticky at first. In fact, that’s totally understandable. Ask yourself—is it a natural fit for you? Or does it rub up against who you are, and how you approach things?

    Subjective feedback means listening to your gut, and using your intuition. (Remember you’re so much wiser now!) 

    5. Get Objective Feedback

    This is exactly as it sounds—ask others for tangible results. 

    So what does that look like? Well, if you were a client, this is where understanding my 7 energy levels are a HUGE advantage, and I’d ask you where you’re resonating at right now. 

    But if you’re not, ask someone you trust. Are you more energized? Do you seem happier, or more contented? 

    Finally, take a step back and objectively ask yourself how you’re doing. (This may sound counterintuitive, but don’t forget: there’s real truth in your own objective wisdom.) 

    6. Evaluate

    Are you getting the results you desire? Are you excited, committed, eager to continue? (And have you given it enough time?!) 

    Which leads me to…

    7. Re-evaluate

    Now this step is crucial! I can’t say it enough…

    Why? Because so often we don’t give something a chance to work! We disregard fasting because it’s too damn hard, we turn up the heat on our cold shower, we pack in the yoga because we’ll never be able to bend like we could in our teens… 

    Well, maybe not. But y’know what? Who cares! And if you’ve learned anything by now in life you know none of this is going to be a homerun. You’re not going to knock it out of the park first time…  

    But the important thing is you trust the process, and you’ve reached the best conclusion for you, by assessing and evaluating. 

    And know this: You’re already a success in showing up for yourself. You became one the moment you chose to stand up and age powerfully.

    Rooting for you, 

    XO

    Holly

    P.S. I know this isn’t easy! Whatever age you are, starting something new can make you feel nervous, scared, and afraid you’ll fail. But as I like to say: ‘if not now when?!’ 

    … And there’s no failure in trying something new. 

    Now, if you want to learn more about embracing an experimental mindset in midlife, there are 2 things you can do next:

    1. Listen to the podcast episode, that kickstarted all this. Yup, this entire prescription came out of one simple question that Maryann LoRusso asked me on the More Beautiful podcast. (It’s amazing what happens when someone inspires you, right?)
    1. *Take my Values Assessment. If you’re new to this journey, and not sure what your true, core values are anymore (yes, they are changing up big time now in midlife) my Values Assessment will help you figure that out. 

     

     

     

     

    Change of Season, Change of Perspective??

    Change of Season, Change of Perspective??

    by | Oct 5, 2023 | Blog

    4-Part Prescription For Cultivating Self-Love

    ‘Change of season, change of perspective…’ 

    Was the thought in the back of my mind when I sat down to complete my Values Assessment for the nth time.

    But I hadn’t bargained on exactly how much of a change it would be… 

    Now, before I go any further, I should explain that a Values Assessment is a tool I use with all my clients, and something I encourage them to come back to, at least annually. 

    And the Fall run up to the Holidays is the perfect time for this, because it forces us to turn our attention to ourselves—and lays valuable groundwork for January’s habit of setting goals and starting afresh.

    (If you’ve never done one before, you can read more about that here.)

    Now, I’ve been completing Values Assessments for as long as I’ve been a life coach (that’s well over a decade). And to put this into perspective, I’ve never uncovered the insight I discovered last week, namely that…

    Self-Love is now my highest priority.  

    And this got me thinking: why is this such a surprise for me, especially given I’m a Women’s Transformational Life-Coach? 

    Well, the answer is right there…  

    Why is Self-Love So Hard for Women To Achieve? 

    Yup the truth is Self-Love is something almost impossible for us women to cultivate.

    It feels self-indulgent… 

    Selfish even…

    And fact is, we’re just not socialized that way. 

    Instead, we’re the life-bearers, the life-givers. We’re self-less. We put everyone else before ourselves, solve everyone else’s problems before our own…

    And spend way too much time comparing our imaginary flaws to everyone else’s imaginary perfections. 

    So that makes it even more impossible to suddenly be like ‘hey, I’m gonna love myself!’ 

    And all that got me thinking… 

    What if there was a prescription for Self-Love? A simple formula we could tap into whenever we need a little TLC? 

    Well, that’s why after years of writing, speaking and working with women on this topic I’ve taken everything I’ve learned (including a bunch of lessons I’ve already shared with you) and rolled it up into one simple prescription that you can call on whenever the chips are down, and you need a little care and attention. 

    And here is it… 

    The 4-Part Prescription for Lasting Self-Love

    Part 1: Progress Over Perfection

    Put simply this is all about letting go of the perfectionist mindset we’ve been spoon-fed from day 1, and move ourselves towards an optimialist perspective. 

    So what does that look like?

    Well, The ‘Perfectionist’ is SO on point she fails to embrace reality. She’ll work 16 hours a day, AND stay super-healthy/be a model spouse/the perfect mother/be super active in the community/BFF to millions…

    Maybe this resonates? 

    The ‘Optimialist’ on the other hand, is healthy and striving—but uses these high standards to fuel her growth. 

    In other words, she rubs her vision up against reality. She aspires to be her best—within reason. And she understands that there are only so many hours in the day, and constructs a healthy optimal life within these boundaries. 

    Now, you can read more about the difference here.

    BUT. 

    Essentially, part one of my 4-Part Process is about recognizing the difference between being a perfectionist or an optimialist. So you can move out of perfectionism and into Part 2 of my prescription… 

    Part 2: Cultivate Self-Compassion

    Kristen Neff, the world’s leading researcher on self-compassion, explains that if faced with setbacks or insecurity, most of us fall into the trap of self-criticism…

    Which inevitably chips away at our wellbeing.

    Now, self-compassion on the other hand, builds us back up. And it can be a great source of empowerment, learning, and inner strength. 

    And this is a 3-fold process: 

    First, we must learn the practice of self-kindness…

    Second, discover how to embrace our common humanity… 

    And third, take a balanced approach to negative emotions.

    Want to know more? You can read more about Kristen’s approach here. 

    But, Part 2 really all boils down to this: being able to recognize when you’re falling into the trap of self-criticism and flipping that script to self-compassion. 

    Part 3: Remember: That Manicure is Just a Myth

    Now, I’ve talked about this before. (In fact, the Myth of a Manicure is probably one of my most popular emails.)

    Why?

    Well, it makes most women sit up and think. Reevaluate what true self-care really means for them. 

    Because here’s what I like to tell them: 

    Is it really fair to say getting a manicure, having a facial, or hanging out with friends is self-care?

    Or can that be more accurately described as self-maintenance?

    Now, don’t get me wrong I love getting massages, sitting down to read a great book or watching the latest episode of Ted Lasso.

    (All of which certainly feel good in the moment but honestly short lived.)

    But, if you want more bang for your buck like feeling:

    • More comfortable in your own skin
    • Confidence in who are and where you’re going
    • Energized and excited about your future

    True self-care and self-love is going to have to include doing difficult things that our body, heart, and spirit need but may be hard… 

    Like boundary setting, forgoing that second glass of wine, having that hard conversation, getting to bed earlier, or going for a mammogram.

    Ugh. I know it’s not sexy. But unfortunately it’s essential.

    (And if you’re not sure what that might be? Take the time to journal each day, and let what you really need bubble up to the surface.)

    Part 4: Radically Reframe Aging

    This last part is all about recognizing your own good qualities and strengths and building on those rather than focusing so much on weaknesses. 

    And that starts with crushing the comparisonitis. 

    Now, one way to press pause on this is to surround yourself with stories of women who truly inspire you.

    And yes, I do this all the time! Some are my clients, and some are women out there right now, in the spotlight, who dare to radically reframe aging. 

    Self-Love. If A Doctor Could Prescribe It… 

    Here’s the thought I want to leave with you…

    Self-love shouldn’t be something you feel ashamed of cultivating. 

    It shouldn’t be something you’re surprised at feeling…

    And you shouldn’t feel ashamed that it’s even on your radar.

    (In fact, imagine if this was prescribed by a doctor?! I’d even go so far as to say I bet those prescriptions for Xanax or Zoloft would drop.)

    Because it’s time to stop feeling less than, and embrace the love of you, now in this moment. 

    I think you deserve that much… 

    XO

    Holly

    P.S. QUICK RECAP… 

    If you’d like to read up on any of any of the points I’ve made here in this prescription, here are the links you need: 

    Part 1: Progress Over Perfection

    Part 2: Cultivate Self-Compassion

    Part 3: Remember! That Manicure is Just a Myth

    Part 4: Radically Reframe Aging

     


                                                                                                                                     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

       

       

       

       

       

       

      Why Craft A Midlife Manifesto?

      Why Craft A Midlife Manifesto?

      by | Sep 13, 2023 | Blog

      Your Midlife Manifesto: The Science-Baked Secret to An Empowered State of Mind

      Last week, I pulled my favorite pair of jeans out of the closet, and boy did they feel tight. 

      (In fact, it took me back to my teenage days, laying on the bed to squeeze into my 501’s, using a coat hanger to pull the zipper up over my hips.)

      Only this time, I don’t feel quite so hot. I’m under no illusions. And when that kind of thinking starts, I can feel myself teetering on the rabbit hole of negativity:

      ‘Oh boy. Here comes the midlife paunch.’

      ‘I’ll have to stop wearing that kinda thing.’ 

      ‘I’m just too old to get away with it.’ 

      Because sure, I happen to be a women’s midlife coach. But that doesn’t mean I’m immune to the occasional negative self-talk when something derails me. (And yes, that ‘something’ may be as simple as finding it damn near impossible to fasten the top button on my beloved 501s.)

      And I know I’m not the only one… 

      Because so often my clients arrive at our first session together armed with layer upon layer of negative self-talk. Most don’t realize they’re doing it, but the outcome is still the same:

      These brilliant, inspiring women are left with chronic feelings of unworthiness, which in turn limit their success, happiness and potential—and means they’re far more likely to settle for less in their lives…

       

      The Power of Language is No Joke, Especially Our Own Inner Dialogue with Ourselves

      Yes, even the most seemingly innocuous, or benign phrases such as ‘I don’t have enough time’ can keep you stuck in a holding pattern. 

      And as for my midlifer’s personal favorite, ‘You can’t teach an old dog new tricks,’ well, I’m here to tell you that’s simply not true!

      Not only is it absolutely possible to teach yourself new tricks at any point in your life—but in order to talk yourself down from that ledge, it’s entirely possible to rewire your brain, and develop new patterns of thinking. 

      In fact, if you want to evolve and develop as a human being, it’s essential. 

      That’s why I’m about to pull back the curtain on one crucial step in my signature program. It’s a proven technique I use with all my clients, that in turn will help you walk away with a mantra—and help you flip the script from ‘I can’t,’ to ‘I can. And what’s more, I will!’ 

      But first let’s uncover how and why this is possible.

      And it’s all thanks to neuroplasticity… 

       

      What is Neuroplasticity?

      Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to create new neural pathways. Usually, we tend to think of this as purely physical—for example, recovery from a traumatic event such as a stroke. 

      But, in everyday terms, neuroplasticity simply means that the brain is capable of rewiring itself or adapting to change.

      In fact, until relatively recently, scientists believed that our brain was hardwired by our 20s—and our thought processes, patterns and personality were immovable.

      But that coudn’t be further from the truth. Now we know that the brain doesn’t stop regenerating or reorganizing—and with the right techniques and strategies, it’s possible to shatter old patterns of thinking. 

      Think about it this way: when you’re first learning to ski, it’s likely you’ll follow the same route down the mountain. Those pathways will become embedded, and leave deep distinct grooves in the snow.

      Then, as your confidence or curiosity grows you’ll find that it’s possible to choose a different path through the snow, and a new pattern will emerge…

      Or even a new pattern of thinking.  

       

      Step Into the Power of Aging

      The truth is with aging comes wisdom. Because, when you hit your 40’s and beyond, you are more in tune with your own true self than you ever have been.

      And as I like to remind my clients, ‘if not now when?!’ 

      But if you want to re-evaluate your life, and grab it with both hands, you need to let yourself think bigger—and take the small steps that will create a cumulative ripple effect, and lead to real lasting change. 

      And here’s what that looks like… 

       

      Craft Your Own Midlife Manifesto

      Remember how taking that new, more positive path down the mountain, can rewire your subconscious? Well, it’s these new trends and new neural pathways that will start the ripple effect you need to manifest more in your life.

      And a Midlife Manifesto is the guiding light that will keep you on track.

      I use mine to remind myself of what’s important when the going gets tough. It gives me the permission to not always have the answers, and instead choose to fill my life with love and laughter—whatever curveballs may come my way.  

      Let me share it with you now:

      ‘I AM NOT DONE!

      In fact, I’m finally figuring it out.

      At every age comes advantages and disadvantages.

      And I am choosing to focus on the advantages of each stage of my life.

      Until my last breath, I have no intention to settle for the status quo.

      I am done with beating myself up, and would rather embrace self-growth.

      I give myself permission to not always have the answers, while still filling my life with love and laughter.

      I will determine the ‘fullness’ of my life (not my age).’

      You will see that my manifesto is fundamental to who I am as coach, helping women through midlife. It sets out clearly that I am the one who will determine what I am or am not capable of. 

      Will my life become more limited? Probably. Will I still be able to get on the Peloton and kick some ass? Maybe not… But the point is, it will be my choice. And this manifesto is there to remind me: I will not settle for less, mentally and physically until my last breath.

      My midlife manifesto is my skin in the game when life gets tough. 

      And now it’s your turn… 

      Take a pen, pour a glass of wine—and write your own Midlife Manifesto. And, if you need prompts to get going, my 10 Question Toolkit will help you uncover what you want most of in and for your life. 

      But that’s not all… 

      Keep that manifesto as a talisman. Pin it to a board in your office (like I did), or (as one of my clients once did) laminate your manifesto and keep it in your purse, for whenever your confidence needs a jolt.

      Because here’s what I want you to remember: Your words matter. 

      And they are your key to unlock a more empowered state of mind. 

      XO

      Holly

       

       

         

         

         

         

         

         

        Don’t Mess With a Menopausal Woman…

        Don’t Mess With a Menopausal Woman…

        by | May 3, 2023 | Blog

        Three Simple Ways To Honor The Struggle (Because Sometimes Life Sucks)

        Don’t mess with a menopausal woman who wants more for herself.

        … Is something my clients and I often joke about. 

        Because, the truth is, at our time of life? There’s SO much going on:

        • Hot flashes that soak the bed, or steam up your eyeglasses…
        • Parents aging, and demanding so much more from you…
        • Kids getting married, having babies—or leaving for college (and calling home when it’s not going so well…)

        When, all the while you think ‘this should be my time now’ (to figure out where you want to retire, how to navigate your divorce, or what to do next in your career).

        Yup, aging can be a reckoning alright. (Or as I like to call it: ‘a sh*tshow.’) 

        Or… As Glennon Doyle so eloquently put it: ‘I believe the spiritual/official explanation for a wise woman aging is: LOOK AT HER! SHE HAS RUNNETH OUT OF EFFS TO GIVE.’

        Well, for me, this only tells half the story… 

        Because, what if, despite the madness, you DO give an eff…? 

        What if you want to be ready for every curveball life throws at you (instead of cowering in the corner?) 

        What if you want to move into the next phase of life on YOUR terms—more powerfully than ever?!

        Well, I believe, a strong part of dealing with life’s uncertainties is realizing how to ‘Honor the Struggle.’ 

        (Because, as we’ve established, sh*t’s gonna get real. But, it’s how we deal with it that counts.)

        To help, I walk my clients through a 3-part process. And here I’ve simplified it for you:

        Part 1: Acceptance

        And all this means is: accepting where you’re at. 

        Simple right? 😉 (And not to be confused with ‘resigning.’ That’s very different.) 

        No, resignation is relinquishing your control. Quitting or succumbing to something less than desirable…

        This means if you can accept life’s curveballs, you can regain control over them, and increase the likelihood that you will recover—by embracing what actually is, and what needs to be done—rather than wishing for something to be different.  

        Part 2: Embrace an Experimental Mindset (and Build Self-Trust)

        Now, I expect across social media, or in the business world, you regularly see people embracing a ‘growth mindset.’ And I say, there’s nothing wrong with that…

        BUT, the plain simple truth is this: it’s easy to trust yourself when your plan is working, and everything’s going well. But learning to trust yourself under adversity is something very different…

        Building self trust comes from knowing you’re resilient—and can bounce back from anything. It comes from being able to accept, acknowledge or honor the struggle, yet respond to any situation as you need to. 

        (Now, here I will walk my clients through what might be blocking their energy, and how to handle them) but for now, use this takeaway: 

        An important part of trusting yourself when things are challenging is knowing ALL experiences have value—but it’s crucial that you release your expectations to any particular outcome. 

        Remember this: embrace an experimental mindset—and you can create purpose from everything that happens (even if things don’t go your way).

        Part 3: Look for a Purpose, Not a Reason

        Although the difference between the words ‘reason’ and ‘purpose’ may seem inconsequential, energetically they are light years apart—and easy to confuse.

        And here’s why: the person who looks for reason takes no responsibility in creating her future. More likely, she’s stuck in the past, asking why something happened… 

        Conversely, someone who’s looking for a purpose does so with an eye toward growth and expansion. 

        Take my Mom’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis for example. It could have been SO easy for me to look around and say: why the f*ck should my mother have Alzheimer’s? Why is this happening to me? 

        But if I look for the purpose instead of reason, I realize that this is the perfect thing to give a (recovering) control freak—because I have deep immersion, and no control over it.

        And there you have 3 reasons why I am totally about honoring the suck, validating it—and using it to better your life.

        So next time, you think: ‘Why is this happening to me?’ Flip the script to: ‘why is this happening for me?’

        Remember this: happiness is an inside job. And right now, you have an unbelievable amount of wisdom that’s come with age… 

        So don’t give up. Learn to trust yourself, embrace life’s difficulties, and you’ll discover courage you never knew you had. 

        Rooting for you,

        XO

        Holly 

        P.S. Want to go one step further and ignite a midlife reboot? Grab my 10 Question Toolkit. It’ll give you the skillset to not only manage the mayhem—but master it.

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