Sick Of All The How To Set A Resolution January Blog Posts?

Sick Of All The How To Set A Resolution January Blog Posts?

Perfect Read This Instead…

It’s January — and you know what that means… 

In line at the supermarket, you’re hit by all the articles on health and wellbeing. You’ll go back to the gym. Dust off that yoga mat (or Peloton). Write that book/see your best friend more/eat less carbs… 

You’ve got your resolutions. New year, new you, right? And you are on it. 

Sound familiar? 

Well, it might — in more ways than one. Because this is exactly how I started January’s blog post 2 years ago. 

So, why am I shamelessly repurposing old content — and drawing attention to it at that?! 

Well, for one simple reason… 

Every year, as the clock strikes midnight and the New Year rolls around, millions of us will resolve to reinvent ourselves. Because whether it be health, money, a new career, or just deciding to argue less (after a week of in-laws and hosting) one thing’s for certain…

This year will be better… 

And yet, by February, 80% of us will have broken (or forgotten) our New Year’s resolutions.

Well, being a women’s life empowerment coach (and a decade as a qualified psychotherapist before that) resolutions and goal setting are all too familiar to me. 

It’s why I can recognize the pressure you put on yourself not to fail every year… 

And I also know that — just like my opening paragraph — if you cast your mind back, chances are your goals this year, will be suspiciously similar to last year’s… 

So, why should we expect this one to be any different? 

Well, that’s why, I’m not about to give you even more strategies to set realistic resolutions — and stick to them. (And in fact, if that’s what you’re after, my YouTube lives back in December give you a 4-Part Recipe for Goal Setting Success.)

No, today is about knowing HOW to dismantle the limiting beliefs and disempowering assumptions that put you in a never ending loop of setting resolutions each year — and feeling crushed when you’ve ‘failed’ by February.  

Now, dismantling these gremlins is in fact, a HUGE piece of my work with women, but rarely do we apply them to goal setting or New Year’s resolutions. 

Which is a mistake, because in reality making this one simple shift can have a profound impact… 

Or, as Elizabeth Gilbert so eloquently puts it:  

“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” 

Now, I love this quote because she calls out something we’re all too familiar with… 

In other words, until we’re genuinely honest about where we’re at in our lives — or able to call out the limiting beliefs and disempowering assumptions that are holding us back — how can we ever hope to put our goals into action? 

So, what does that look like in practice? 

Well, let’s take one of the most popular resolutions I see women make in January (after all the baked goodies, champagne and eggnog has settled). 

Yes, you guessed it: Losing weight. Getting fitter. 

Or (as I like to call it) feeling more vibrant.  

Now, your limiting beliefs around this might look something like, ‘I’ll never swim 30 lengths of the pool’ or ‘I’ll never feel as fit as I did in my 20’s.’ 

But here’s the deal: if from the outset you let that negative narrative chip away at you how can you ever possibly achieve that goal? 

The same works for any resolution you make — that new career, the house move, even worrying less about your children. The fact is none of these are remotely achievable, if you know, deep down you’ll talk yourself out of it.

But there is something you can do about it… 

How To Conduct a Visioning Exercise 

The truth is, negative self talk can quickly spiral. Seriously, how many times in your life have you become stuck, and rigidly hold onto things, or pooh-pooh away any choices you may have?

Well, that’s all it takes to break a resolution. 

That’s why when they’re spiralling, I ask my clients to write a list of the most outlandish things they can think of for this second half of life. Because, now more than ever, it’s important to remove a sense of reality from the situation. 

For example:

Want to swim 30 lengths? Why not do a triathlon!

Want to learn French? Move to Paris for 6 months! 

Want to travel more? Take up skydiving while you’re at it! 

Seriously, the trick is to go to town on this. Because so much of our stuckness comes from rigidly clinging onto narrow choices. But when we bust that open, a world of possibilities emerge…

And suddenly you’ll realize this year’s resolution to wear your bikini on that dream trip to the Maldives really isn’t that outlandish at all… 

You’ll STOP flatlining your possibilities or settling for mediocrity…

And what’s more, you’ll never again risk seeing yet another year come and go — or watching your resolutions go up in February smoke. 

XO

Holly

P.S. If this post struck a chord, and you’d like more exercises to strengthen your resolution and resolve — here are 2 things you can do next:

  1. Watch my YouTube lives with Lucie Q — and discover the 4-Part Recipe to map out your vision, set effective goals, uncover why they fail and dodge those midlife curveballs. 
  2. Download Your Free Values Assessment. This will help work out what your real, true values are, and kickstart your ‘Why’ — all super crucial to keep your resolutions on track.

     

     

     

     

    The Dreaded ‘Trifecta of Midlife’ (and what you can do about it)

    The Dreaded ‘Trifecta of Midlife’ (and what you can do about it)

    Why Do So Many Women Feel Irrelevant In Midlife 

    I remember the first time it happened. 

    I was standing in line at the bagel store looking down at my phone, when a voice in front of me called out—

    “Can I help you Ma’am?”

    Huh?

    I turned around — 

    And I’m thinking, ‘Who? Me? Ma’am?! Who’s ‘Ma’am?’

    I was wearing sunglasses for heaven’s sake!

    I’d just been working out. I had a vest on, my hair scrunched up on top of my head. 

    Wow. Is it my hair? Is it my posture? What is it about me that looks so much older? (Yup, all these thoughts flashed through my mind in a nanosecond.)

    “Ma’am?!” (He was getting impatient now.) “How can I help you?”

    So, I sighed. And took a step forward in line—both literally, and metaphorically. 

    Because somehow I’d moved up a notch. 

    I was officially middle aged.  

    And for a moment, that feeling my clients talk about so often flashed into my mind: 

    ‘I feel invisible. And irrelevant.’

    Now, I’m okay sharing this with you because I know you feel the same. 

    When? 

    Every time you look in the mirror, second guess your dress choice—and that inner critic screams ‘you’re way too old for that!’ 

    Every time you glance down at your stretch marks, and pull that coverup over your bikini…

    Every time you walk past a construction site—and don’t get wolf-whistled. 

    (C’mon… admit it! And yes, the feminist in me hated it too when I was younger.)

    But all this is no surprise, because our youth obsessed society conditions us to believe that our relevance is attached to how attractive we are — 

    Or how much attention we get from men.

    But here’s the thing…

    While that may be one reason, to pin it all on this is to do ourselves a disservice. Because irrelevance in midlife is about so much more than mere attractiveness…

    And in fact, after a decade of hearing my clients agonize over this, I can tell you it comes down to not 1, but 3 universal truths (and my own personal spin on it…)

    So, let’s start from the top…  

    1. Our Youth Obsessed Culture

    Washed up. Dried out. And my own personal favorite, ‘spinster.’ 

    Yikes. Over the years there have been some damn offensive terms for a woman of a certain age (especially if she’d never been married). 

    And although those terms are outdated now, you could argue they’ve been replaced by something else—a youth obsessed culture that tells us we have so much less to give physically or sexually…

    Our social media feeds are full of makeup, hair extensions, and tight dewy skin. Lunch hour ‘botox-breaks’ are the norm. Younger women snap at the heels of our career…

    Whoa. It’s no surprise that many of us still think our relevance is defined by how attractive men find us. 

    Especially when you wake up and realize… 

    2. You Don’t Feel ‘Middle Aged’

    Just like my bagel-boy example above, the truth is middle age creeps up on us—then slaps us in the face with a jar of Pond’s cold cream. 

    My point? It feels like only last week I was a ‘miss’—and now I’m a ‘Ma’am.’ (And an ex-runner turned Peloton obsessive, with two hip replacements to boot.) 

    WTAF? 

    Now, however middle-aged is ‘supposed’ to feel, I’m not feeling it. And neither is anyone around me…

    (Heck, even Carrie Bradshaw and co are struggling.)

    3. Your Life is Changing Up

    Children leaving home, going to college and getting married…

    Parents aging—and needing so much more from us…

    Technology, AI and feeling like we can’t keep up… 

    Good and bad, wherever we look, the world—and our lives—are changing. 

    And when you throw menopause into the mix, well, you could say the very definition of midlife is ‘change.’

    Physically and mentally, midlife throws so much more at us than we bargained for… 

    And that brings me to bonus point number 4, or my own personal take on this… 

    Your Way Forward Has Disappeared. And There Is No Roadmap…

    Here’s the deal: most of us have spent our lives putting others first. We’ve been the perfect wife, mother or daughter for so long… 

    We’ve been to college, raised families, and had successful careers. 

    In fact, we’ve been spoon fed since day one what we should and shouldn’t be doing, how we can excel, how we should operate as women. And I strongly believe us Gen-Xers, the late baby boomers have had the worst of it.  

    In short? We’ve had many, many decades of putting ourselves in a box of what everyone else should expect us to do.

    We’ve never tapped into our true, authentic self. We’ve never found out what our preferences might actually be. (Or we abandoned them for family and work.)

    We’ve played nice and not ruffled any feathers.

    And as a result? When our children leave home, or career changes up, we feel tired and irrelevant…

    Our purpose has vanished…

    And we find ourselves asking… 

    “Who am I anyway?” 

    Maybe this resonates?

    Well, if it does, know this, you are definitely not alone. (In fact, I can’t tell you how many clients come to me with those exact same feelings.) 

    But here’s the deal: it doesn’t have to be that way. And it’s never too late to flip the script on this.

    The Secret? Learn How To Invest in Yourself in Midlife

    Now, don’t get me wrong. This isn’t easy when you’ve spent a lifetime thinking about the wants, needs and preferences of others…

    But this is your time now.  

    And you must take these steps. Because every single woman I know who overcomes her feelings of irrelevance is invested in her own self development—they focus on their personal growth, they work out what their interests might be, they take up new hobbies. 

    They refuse to buy into our youth obsessed culture—because they know it’s just one narrative. Online, they follow women who inspire them, and light them up. They embrace an Experimental Mindset. 

    They know their world is there to be shaped, and they refuse to give in…

    And second? They stay connected. They join clubs, and move amongst people who see them for what they truly are. They feel seen, heard, and relevant.

    In fact, this is the exact reason I don’t feel irrelevant. (Well, at least until some young server dares to call me ‘Ma’am.’ 😉

    Seriously now. I’ve done the legwork, I have exposure to so many tools to help me, and I’m lucky to be in this industry.

    And the reason I don’t have that piece is because I’ve built a very strong sense of self. 

    I know who I am. 

    And I’m here to help you feel the same. 

    XO 

    Holly 

    P.S. If you’re reading this thinking, ‘but Holly, I’ve no idea what my own preferences and needs, wants and desires might be!’ My 10 Question Toolkit is a great place to start. 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    How do we know what’s right for us NOW in midlife?

    How do we know what’s right for us NOW in midlife?

    A Seven Step Prescription For an Experimental Mindset in Midlife

    Now, if you’re reading this I’m assuming you’re the kind of woman who’s regularly looking for new ways to up her game—and feel fitter, happier, and more contented in your life? 

    But, in your never ending search for more, do you ever feel like there’s just too much out there? 

    And I mean ‘too much’ in the way of…  

    What you should be doing? 

    How you should be exercising? 

    What you should be eating? (Not to mention all the scary conditions just waiting round the corner, that make you feel like staying under the covers.)

    Well, how the heck should we know what’s right for us, and take a balanced approach to staying healthy and well —

    Or even get into our good place (the magic) ✨ with everything that’s going on?

    Well, THAT was the exact question I was asked on a podcast recently, and it’s something I’ve been mulling over ever since. 

    Because although I do my damndest to pull back the curtain on midlife, and help women uncover the right path for them, even I feel bombarded by all the ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ out there…

    But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: the key to tell what’s right for you, and uncover your truest sense of self, is to embrace an experimental mindset. 

    Now before you stop and say, ‘Holly, I just don’t jive to that! I want absolutes, not more things to try out!’ 

     … Just hear me out for a second. 

    Because the truth is you’re going to have to embrace this if you want to figure out what really lights you up in life.

    So that’s why I came up with my 7-Part Prescription for an Experimental Mindset.

    (And yes, I called it ‘prescription,’ because if you’re feeling resistant—it’ll make it easier to swallow. Plus it’s exactly what the doctor ordered. So here’s what that looks like:

    1. Investigate

    Start by thinking about those people who are in alignment with your value base*, your personality and what lights you up. Follow them on social media, read their books, listen to their podcasts, watch their films. 

    Then…

    2. Choose

    In other words, based on your intuition and what feels right for you—pick an idea or strategy to try on for size.

    Now, the beautiful truth here is we’re so much wiser now! And SO DONE with anything that no longer serves us. And yes, it’s time to get ruthless. Delete the feed from the 20 year old doing lunges, or the influencer in hotpants that makes you feel inadequate. 

    And instead replace them with inspirational women. Women who embody who you are, and where you want to go. Trust me, it’ll serve you in the long run… 

    3. Experiment

    This is all about establishing your strategy. Not sure what that is? Take advice from friends, your doctor, people you respect—in other words, people who you know have your best intentions at heart. 

    (And if you’ve been thinking about trying that plant-based diet, or taking up pickleball? Now’s the time to do it…)

    4. Listen to Subjective Feedback

    The crucial thing to remember here is any new start will (probably) feel sticky at first. In fact, that’s totally understandable. Ask yourself—is it a natural fit for you? Or does it rub up against who you are, and how you approach things?

    Subjective feedback means listening to your gut, and using your intuition. (Remember you’re so much wiser now!) 

    5. Get Objective Feedback

    This is exactly as it sounds—ask others for tangible results. 

    So what does that look like? Well, if you were a client, this is where understanding my 7 energy levels are a HUGE advantage, and I’d ask you where you’re resonating at right now. 

    But if you’re not, ask someone you trust. Are you more energized? Do you seem happier, or more contented? 

    Finally, take a step back and objectively ask yourself how you’re doing. (This may sound counterintuitive, but don’t forget: there’s real truth in your own objective wisdom.) 

    6. Evaluate

    Are you getting the results you desire? Are you excited, committed, eager to continue? (And have you given it enough time?!) 

    Which leads me to…

    7. Re-evaluate

    Now this step is crucial! I can’t say it enough…

    Why? Because so often we don’t give something a chance to work! We disregard fasting because it’s too damn hard, we turn up the heat on our cold shower, we pack in the yoga because we’ll never be able to bend like we could in our teens… 

    Well, maybe not. But y’know what? Who cares! And if you’ve learned anything by now in life you know none of this is going to be a homerun. You’re not going to knock it out of the park first time…  

    But the important thing is you trust the process, and you’ve reached the best conclusion for you, by assessing and evaluating. 

    And know this: You’re already a success in showing up for yourself. You became one the moment you chose to stand up and age powerfully.

    Rooting for you, 

    XO

    Holly

    P.S. I know this isn’t easy! Whatever age you are, starting something new can make you feel nervous, scared, and afraid you’ll fail. But as I like to say: ‘if not now when?!’ 

    … And there’s no failure in trying something new. 

    Now, if you want to learn more about embracing an experimental mindset in midlife, there are 2 things you can do next:

    1. Listen to the podcast episode, that kickstarted all this. Yup, this entire prescription came out of one simple question that Maryann LoRusso asked me on the More Beautiful podcast. (It’s amazing what happens when someone inspires you, right?)
    1. *Take my Values Assessment. If you’re new to this journey, and not sure what your true, core values are anymore (yes, they are changing up big time now in midlife) my Values Assessment will help you figure that out. 

     

     

     

     

    Why Craft A Midlife Manifesto?

    Why Craft A Midlife Manifesto?

    Your Midlife Manifesto: The Science-Baked Secret to An Empowered State of Mind

    Last week, I pulled my favorite pair of jeans out of the closet, and boy did they feel tight. 

    (In fact, it took me back to my teenage days, laying on the bed to squeeze into my 501’s, using a coat hanger to pull the zipper up over my hips.)

    Only this time, I don’t feel quite so hot. I’m under no illusions. And when that kind of thinking starts, I can feel myself teetering on the rabbit hole of negativity:

    ‘Oh boy. Here comes the midlife paunch.’

    ‘I’ll have to stop wearing that kinda thing.’ 

    ‘I’m just too old to get away with it.’ 

    Because sure, I happen to be a women’s midlife coach. But that doesn’t mean I’m immune to the occasional negative self-talk when something derails me. (And yes, that ‘something’ may be as simple as finding it damn near impossible to fasten the top button on my beloved 501s.)

    And I know I’m not the only one… 

    Because so often my clients arrive at our first session together armed with layer upon layer of negative self-talk. Most don’t realize they’re doing it, but the outcome is still the same:

    These brilliant, inspiring women are left with chronic feelings of unworthiness, which in turn limit their success, happiness and potential—and means they’re far more likely to settle for less in their lives…

     

    The Power of Language is No Joke, Especially Our Own Inner Dialogue with Ourselves

    Yes, even the most seemingly innocuous, or benign phrases such as ‘I don’t have enough time’ can keep you stuck in a holding pattern. 

    And as for my midlifer’s personal favorite, ‘You can’t teach an old dog new tricks,’ well, I’m here to tell you that’s simply not true!

    Not only is it absolutely possible to teach yourself new tricks at any point in your life—but in order to talk yourself down from that ledge, it’s entirely possible to rewire your brain, and develop new patterns of thinking. 

    In fact, if you want to evolve and develop as a human being, it’s essential. 

    That’s why I’m about to pull back the curtain on one crucial step in my signature program. It’s a proven technique I use with all my clients, that in turn will help you walk away with a mantra—and help you flip the script from ‘I can’t,’ to ‘I can. And what’s more, I will!’ 

    But first let’s uncover how and why this is possible.

    And it’s all thanks to neuroplasticity… 

     

    What is Neuroplasticity?

    Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to create new neural pathways. Usually, we tend to think of this as purely physical—for example, recovery from a traumatic event such as a stroke. 

    But, in everyday terms, neuroplasticity simply means that the brain is capable of rewiring itself or adapting to change.

    In fact, until relatively recently, scientists believed that our brain was hardwired by our 20s—and our thought processes, patterns and personality were immovable.

    But that coudn’t be further from the truth. Now we know that the brain doesn’t stop regenerating or reorganizing—and with the right techniques and strategies, it’s possible to shatter old patterns of thinking. 

    Think about it this way: when you’re first learning to ski, it’s likely you’ll follow the same route down the mountain. Those pathways will become embedded, and leave deep distinct grooves in the snow.

    Then, as your confidence or curiosity grows you’ll find that it’s possible to choose a different path through the snow, and a new pattern will emerge…

    Or even a new pattern of thinking.  

     

    Step Into the Power of Aging

    The truth is with aging comes wisdom. Because, when you hit your 40’s and beyond, you are more in tune with your own true self than you ever have been.

    And as I like to remind my clients, ‘if not now when?!’ 

    But if you want to re-evaluate your life, and grab it with both hands, you need to let yourself think bigger—and take the small steps that will create a cumulative ripple effect, and lead to real lasting change. 

    And here’s what that looks like… 

     

    Craft Your Own Midlife Manifesto

    Remember how taking that new, more positive path down the mountain, can rewire your subconscious? Well, it’s these new trends and new neural pathways that will start the ripple effect you need to manifest more in your life.

    And a Midlife Manifesto is the guiding light that will keep you on track.

    I use mine to remind myself of what’s important when the going gets tough. It gives me the permission to not always have the answers, and instead choose to fill my life with love and laughter—whatever curveballs may come my way.  

    Let me share it with you now:

    ‘I AM NOT DONE!

    In fact, I’m finally figuring it out.

    At every age comes advantages and disadvantages.

    And I am choosing to focus on the advantages of each stage of my life.

    Until my last breath, I have no intention to settle for the status quo.

    I am done with beating myself up, and would rather embrace self-growth.

    I give myself permission to not always have the answers, while still filling my life with love and laughter.

    I will determine the ‘fullness’ of my life (not my age).’

    You will see that my manifesto is fundamental to who I am as coach, helping women through midlife. It sets out clearly that I am the one who will determine what I am or am not capable of. 

    Will my life become more limited? Probably. Will I still be able to get on the Peloton and kick some ass? Maybe not… But the point is, it will be my choice. And this manifesto is there to remind me: I will not settle for less, mentally and physically until my last breath.

    My midlife manifesto is my skin in the game when life gets tough. 

    And now it’s your turn… 

    Take a pen, pour a glass of wine—and write your own Midlife Manifesto. And, if you need prompts to get going, my 10 Question Toolkit will help you uncover what you want most of in and for your life. 

    But that’s not all… 

    Keep that manifesto as a talisman. Pin it to a board in your office (like I did), or (as one of my clients once did) laminate your manifesto and keep it in your purse, for whenever your confidence needs a jolt.

    Because here’s what I want you to remember: Your words matter. 

    And they are your key to unlock a more empowered state of mind. 

    XO

    Holly

     

     

       

       

       

       

       

       

      Struggling with change?

      Struggling with change?

      From Menopause To Bereavement, The 4-Step Process To Manage Change In Midlife 

      ‘The only constant in life is change.’

      So said Heraclitus. (Smart man, who summed up in one sentence the dichotomy of being a woman in midlife.)

      I joke of course… But the truth is, midlife is a HUGE time of change for women. Not only, with menopause, when our bodies are going through the biggest physical change since puberty, but we’re likely to be faced with a barrage of change in our everyday lives—be it children flying the nest, aging parents, changing careers, retiring or downsizing our homes. 

      But while some people absolutely love change and thrive on everything it means for their lives, some can barely cope and survive it…

      And others still will do everything possible to avoid it. 

      Most of us recognize that change is inevitable, but what happens when we’re so resistant to it, we fail to see it as a positive?

      Because living in the past, or being unwilling to progress can have a serious impact on our professional and personal lives.

      Well, during my iPEC training to become certified as a professional life coach, I learned an incredible technique that forms the foundation of all my coaching with clients—and now I’m sharing it with you too. And it’s known as The Cycle of Change. 

      What Does The Cycle of Change Mean For You?

      This technique can help you normalize change, ride its waves and help you see change as an essential part of life.

      Because here’s the thing…

      When you hit your 40’s, 50’s and 60’s, in any facet of your life, be it relationships or health—you’re probably tackling the cycle of change.

      Plus—just like dealing with any hand life throws at you—this strategy relates the changes we experience to a game of cards.

      So, here’s how it works: 

      Phase 1: Shuffle

      Change by its very nature is often unexpected. Or, our reaction to change can take us by surprise. (The unexpected death or illness of a loved one for example. Even children leaving for college—no matter how prepared you might be, that feeling of an empty home can cut you to the quick.)

      Well, the ‘Shuffle’ is a period of detachment from what was not working or what has been completed. It’s a phase to ‘time-out,’ emotionally heal and reflect, or search for new directions. 

      Very often being in the Shuffle is associated with a fear of the unknown—but networking, exploring and taking action can help you to see a way through.  

      So, here I would encourage you to take a moment and ask yourself: what aspects of your life are in the Shuffle? Which call for a new beginning? 

      Phase 2: Deal

      The Deal uses all the exploration and reflection you completed in the Shuffle, and helps you to take optimistic action—and move you onto the next step. 

      If you’re in this phase you may feel excitement and anticipation. You’ll look for clarity and support. Your energy is high, despite any fear of failure you may feel. 

      Perhaps, for example, your career is moving in a new direction? You’re pitching to podcasts, and building your audience. You have your head above water and you’re in full-flow mode. 

      Phase 3: Play The Game

      Now, you’re implementing your plan. You get on that podcast, start that new hobby, or buy that new house. 

      In short? You’re all in. 

      But, while this stage is associated with success, it can also be the setting for disappointments, setbacks, and new challenges. 

      You may think: “What do I do next?” or “How can I find the time to do all of this?” And depending on the outcome, you might fear failure, or have a deep sense of peace and purpose…

      But… that’s life! You’re taking action, and learning from mistakes. You’re learning to embrace change, and all that goes with it.

      Phase 4: Toss In 

      In this world, all things come to an end. Sometimes things end with a ‘failure’ and other times with a ‘success.’ Either way, people are rarely ready for the cycle to end, whether it’s the end of a job, a relationship, or any aspect of a goal or project.

      If you’re in this part of the cycle, you’re usually unhappy and unsure of the future. You might turn inward, keep to yourself, and think, why me? 

      ‘I can’t just deal with this right now.’

      Now, if you find yourself in this phase, it’s important to try to move yourself forward, get ready for the next hand, and shuffle those cards to start over.

      Questions To Help You Complete the Cycle of Change 

      If you find it difficult to pinpoint where in your life you might be experiencing the most change, or identifying where on the Cycle you fall, these questions have been designed to help you:

      • What are the most important insights for you from the Cycle of Change?
      • How might you integrate this into a problem, challenge, or conflict you (or someone in your life) is experiencing in your work or personal life right now? 
      • Read back through the phases, and identify where you fall. Name it. 

      (Important to remember: you may be on different phases of the Cycle of Change in different aspects of your life. For example, your relationships may be thriving, but you’re suffering with physical changes due to menopause, or a recent health diagnosis.)

      • Now, ask yourself: what do you need to do in order to move forward? 

      (Note: for the last phase ‘Toss In,’ an entire project or relationship doesn’t have to be over, only an aspect of it.)

      Finally, consider the individuals or loved ones you wish to lead, inspire, or motivate in your life. How can the Cycle of Change assist you with any challenges or conflicts you might have with these people—and how can you shift your collective energy to help them?

      Yes, it may be true that ‘the only constant in life is change—but with the help of these 4 phases, change does not need to be something to fear… 

      Instead, it can be something to be embraced.

      Rooting for you,

      XO

      Holly

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