June 2017 Insights
What holds us back from living the lives we desire? Some people attribute their lack of having what they want in their lives to fate…the development of events beyond their control, that unavoidable befalls upon them. However, many people don’t like the concept of fate, because it negates free will, a concept most of us are certain we as humans possess. But what if neither the traditional concept of fate nor free will, really existed for most people? An unusual concept called self-fate helps explains why so many of us don’t have what we really want. (more…)
May 2017 Insights
It’s not as hard as some would think. Yes, agreed life is challenging and often times complicated and downright messy but with the right “tools” and of course mindset every woman can live a life with greater ease and purpose. Going back many newsletters ago I referenced a great coaching tool called the Wheel of Life (can be seen below and available on my website to print out under the link titled Valuable Downloads), this wheel highlights 8 aspects of one’s life. Now working over 6 years as a women’s empowerment coach, I am able to confirm and know that the happiest and most successful women are those that attend to most aspects indicated on that wheel (a minimum of 6). Even if for some, those aspects, only consume an hour or two within their week. The objective here is to be present, “show up”, in as many of those “slices” of that wheel as possible. It’s not so much how much time one commits to these aspects but more importantly that they do. (more…)
April 2017 Insights
Fear is something with which most of us are well-acquainted with. People are afraid of dying, of being injured, and of being alone since we were created. Though most people would argue that external events and people are what cause us to feel fearful it is actually our thoughts about our external experiences that create our fears. The worries (thoughts) that keep us awake at night, hold us back from opportunities each day. Of course, there are situations that rightfully cause us fear (for example, it is perfectly reasonable to be afraid if you are facing someone with a gun pointed at you) but most of the things that we fear are not life threatening. (more…)
March 2017 Insights
You’ve heard me make references to the term EQ before…more commonly I use the abbreviation EI, Emotional Intelligence. For years, a person’s “Intelligence Quotient” or IQ, was thought to determine how successful they would be. But it turns out, not so much! In todays fast paced, overloaded, challenging world, it seems our ability to manage our emotions and get along with others is the single biggest predictor to greater success than anything else. So naturally as a women’s empowerment coach I’m all about increasing one’s EI for two reason’s…enhancing one’s wellbeing and goal achievement. (more…)
February 2017 Insights
Since February is the month we are reminded most of our relationships with the holiday of Valentines day being celebrated, I thought I’d take this perfect opportunity to expand on last month’s post “Living Life Authentically” and explore more about who we are and how we show up within the different roles (relationships) we play. Whether it be within our relationships with our peers, romantic partners, colleagues, children, even ourselves, being authentic sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. With so many ideals shared through social media and limiting beliefs we’ve taken on through the years, being something we are not or presenting ourselves in a way that isn’t true to ourselves can leave us feeling rather drained and unsatisfied within our relationships. (more…)
We each have our own unique way of learning, playing, living, and being. Greater success and happiness can only come when we are clear about who we are and what we value. Living our lives according to other people’s purpose is futile if we are truly seeking satisfaction and fulfillment within our own lives. The first step to accessing a thriving life is understanding what enhances the way YOU show up! (more…)
December 2016 Insights
“Trust the process”….we’ve all heard the expression before. But what does that even mean? For some that statement in and of itself seems intangible, a rather uncomfortable concept to accept. While others may view it as a cop-out, irresponsible, and lacking a proactive stance. However, it really is quite the opposite. For me, the concept of trusting the process is best captured in Maya Angelou famous quote, “All great achievements require time”. Meaning in essence, everything and everyone are all a work in progress. No one sets out to do less then they are capable of doing in the current circumstances they’re in. No one ever intentionally sets out to make a mistake, “fail”, experience a less than desirable outcome. Trusting the process is living and learning but with faith in oneself that when the process we commit to is not getting us where we want, we have the opportunity to learn from that process and then modify or change it accordingly.
4 Main Concepts To Trusting the Process
• We always do the best we can and nothing else.
• Understanding that“bumps in the road ”are a part of the process.
• Knowing that all experiences have value. So even if things don’t“go your way”, you can always learn a lesson in what has occurred.
• To be totally committed to a plan of action and follow it through.
• Knowing there is always opportunity to make modifications and/or changes to that plan should it not create an optimal outcome.
As this year comes to an end and we reflect upon all we did and didn’t accomplish, have no regrets, give thanks for the learning and usefulness this year has brought. Welcome what 2017 will bring us, trust the process and remember you will always know more than you did yesterday!
Wishing You The Best Of Success
November 2016 Insights
How many times can you recall being torn making a decision? Whether it be as big of a decision regarding concerns over our health or close love one or maybe as small as what birthday gift I should get my best friend? Making “good” decisions is so often confused for making the “right” decision. When we look for the “one” right decision, we can be looking forever! Knowing that there are multiple decisions that can be made within any given situation, each having advantages and disadvantages, can allow us to make the “best” decision for ourselves based on what we know and value within that moment in time. And even more importantly recognizing that the “best” decision we can make, can change, modify, or be learned from if need be moving forward. (more…)
October 2016 Insights
“When you change your mind about stress, you can change your body’s response to stress”
-Kelly McGonigal, PhD-
Everyone has stress in their lives, and most people would agree they want less stress. But what people really want is to have less of a “stress reaction” to the things that are occurring in their lives and zapping their energy. Stress itself is not the enemy; it’s our reaction to it. How great would it be if rather than seeing your most stressful days as the worst days of your life, they actually become your best days? (more…)