Another Way To Kickstart The New Year

Another Way To Kickstart The New Year

by | Jan 4, 2023 | Blog

Why I’m giving resolutions the 🖕

Here’s a Quick Q: What does January mean to you?

  • A fresh start? Intangible excitement and anticipation? The feeling that ‘this year everything will be different…’
  • Resolutions and goal setting? Dusting off that yoga mat. Scrolling through your phone contacts to see who you missed last year—convinced that this will be the time for a long lost dinner date… 
  • Or… short days and long dark evenings? (And the silent dread of that post-holiday credit card statement arriving in  the mailbox.)

Perhaps, if you’re honest, it’s a mixture of all three… 

But, right now, whether waiting in line at the supermarket or scrolling your phone, all you see are headlines screaming at you to—

Crush 2023!

Hit The New Year Running!

Find Your Purpose! 

New Year, New You, right?

Erm, wrong.

Now, I don’t want to be a Debbie Downer on all this. Sure, it works for some of us (even though 80% of resolutions are forgotten by February). And reinventing ourselves positively towards the future can only be a good thing, right?

Well, truth is I find this all a little nauseating. 

Take ‘finding your purpose’ for example… Dig a little deeper, and chances are you’ll discover purpose in many aspects of your life. (Because truth is, in midlife? What your purpose is today, may not be tomorrow.)

So, if we’re not talking about #Resolutions, #GoalSetting or #FindingYourWow what on Earth can we do to kickstart January? 

Well, I believe it’s time for a non-traditional route…

Yup. It’s time to talk pleasure and joy.

And there are 3 big reasons why this is SO important for women in midlife: 

  1. Much has shifted and changed in our lives. It’s easy to lose sight of what really brings us pleasure and joy—when we were busy checking ALL the boxes we were told to… 

2. In putting everyone else first, we rarely give ourselves time to honor what truly makes us happy. 

3. We’ve forgotten how to get in touch with pleasure or joy. Yet in the doldrums of winter, feeling burnt out, an emphasis on both can help you climb over that hump—and into spring. 

So, how can YOU unlock more pleasure and joy in your life? 

Well, let me ask you 3 simple questions:

  • What fills you up?
  • What warms your heart?
  • What makes you laugh? 

Now, my guess is, you’ve spent so long with your own needs on the backburner that it’s hard for you to extend yourself—and truly answer these questions. 

It might be helpful to ask yourself, ‘when do I find myself smiling? What makes me laugh out loud?’ These simple cues can pinpoint what makes you tick, and what actually lights you up… 

Now, take these cues and translate them into tangible things that actually bring you pleasure and joy.

For example, hanging out with my dogs brings me tremendous joy. For you it might be watching the sunset, connecting with friends, curling up with a good book, sex…(!) 

Fact: uncovering pleasure and joy leads to greater happiness in our lives. 

Because here’s the deal:

Life is challenging. But you don’t have to sit in the heaviness 24/7. 

Finding joy gives you a chance for reprieve, to regroup, and fortify your stamina…

And then, if you want to put it towards those goals? Be my guest 😉

XO

Holly

P.S. It’s not unusual to feel disconnected, feeling it’s impossible to uncover what brings you pleasure and joy in life? No worries. Schedule a free discovery call—and I’ll help you discover what lights you up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Joy, Happiness, Confidence-you choose!

    Joy, Happiness, Confidence-you choose!

    by | Aug 3, 2022 | Blog

    Unlock Your Superpower…

    Maybe too much information…?

    But, if I hear my freakin’ doctor tell me one more time—‘Holly, your vaginal walls are thinning because you’re getting older…’

    I mean sheesh. Seriously? Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate that.  

    Let’s just add that to the endless list of midlife ‘fixes’ that you’re never quite prepared for: 

     >> The low-estrogen cream that’s $90 a pop to stop those damn urinary tract infections… 

     >> Figuring out whether to ramp it up in your career—or lay low till retirement… 

     >> Turning to your husband and thinking ‘what’s next?’ as you wave the kids off to college… 

     Yeah. There are a million-and-one reasons why midlife gets a bad rap—but I’m not having any of it. 

    And neither should you.

    Let me perform a little test here, and ask you a question…

    How could you move more proactively today, towards your future best self? 

    Please, take a moment to picture. And lean into your gut reaction.

    Now, let me guess… Are you mentally listing all things you need to ‘fix’ about yourself, or your circumstances? 😉

    If so, you’re not alone. It’s how nearly every woman I ask answers this question…

    But this knee-jerk reaction isn’t gonna serve you. 

    Because the truth is it’s only through nurturing our strengths, NOT correcting our shortcomings—that we can actually experience growth, and get to where we want to be in life. 

    And identifying how to lean into our strengths—those core characteristics that come most naturally to us—is the key to reaching our goals. 

    FACT: There’s a huge amount of research over the past 15 years on the value of using our strengths to feel more fulfilled, live a higher quality of life, and have much more fun at work and home.

    Don’t just take my word for it! Martin Seligman, the father of Positive Psychology, says that for a person to be truly happy and live a meaningful life, that person must recognize their personal strengths—and use these strengths for the greater good.

    (It’s a stance that Forbes, Gallup and the VIA Institute on Character are also taking pretty seriously, advising parents to focus on their children’s strengths, not filling an imaginary skills gap in their ‘weakness.’) 

    Bottomline: If we’re to take Seligman’s advice, we should spend time trying to figure out these personal strengths—what we were born to do—without wasting time on making things harder for ourselves.  

    So, that’s why I’m making it super easy for you to do just that… 

    And developed a Midlife Advantage Quiz to help YOU shine a light on your own unique superpowers—and leverage your strengths to navigate midlife on your own terms.

    In it you’ll discover a personalized roadmap to:  

    • Swap the ‘I thought I’d be further ahead’ nonsense we ALL revert to, with ‘I’m open to feeling more happiness now,’ so you can live life as an opportunity (versus just existing).
    • Feel more motivated than ever to shift your energy, make the changes you want in your life and find more purpose and fulfillment 
    • Handle life’s disruptions head-on, start navigating life on your terms, and do ALL the things that might’ve scared you in the past—because I’m not letting you leave this world with regrets!

    Plus, I’ll also let you into some secret insights from my own life along the way… 

    Because, I’m telling you—leaning into your strengths is a waaay more fulfilling way to live than endlessly trying to fix your life. Or popping another $90 on low-estrogen cream… 😉

    TAKE THE QUIZ NOW….just press here!

    XO

    Holly

     P.S. Once you get your results, I’d LOVE to know how they resonated with you. Please reply back, tell me what you got, and if I nailed it.