CORE Energy Archives - Holly Boxenhorn

Joy, Happiness, Confidence-you choose!

by Holly Boxenhorn | Aug 3, 2022 | Blog

Unlock Your Superpower…

Maybe too much information…?

But, if I hear my freakin’ doctor tell me one more time—‘Holly, your vaginal walls are thinning because you’re getting older…’

I mean sheesh. Seriously? Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate that.

Let’s just add that to the endless list of midlife ‘fixes’ that you’re never quite prepared for:

>> The low-estrogen cream that’s $90 a pop to stop those damn urinary tract infections…

>> Figuring out whether to ramp it up in your career—or lay low till retirement…

>> Turning to your husband and thinking ‘what’s next?’ as you wave the kids off to college…

Yeah. There are a million-and-one reasons why midlife gets a bad rap—but I’m not having any of it.

And neither should you.

Let me perform a little test here, and ask you a question…

How could you move more proactively today, towards your future best self?

Please, take a moment to picture. And lean into your gut reaction.

Now, let me guess… Are you mentally listing all things you need to ‘fix’ about yourself, or your circumstances? 😉

If so, you’re not alone. It’s how nearly every woman I ask answers this question…

But this knee-jerk reaction isn’t gonna serve you.

Because the truth is it’s only through nurturing our strengths, NOT correcting our shortcomings—that we can actually experience growth, and get to where we want to be in life.

And identifying how to lean into our strengths—those core characteristics that come most naturally to us—is the key to reaching our goals.

FACT: There’s a huge amount of research over the past 15 years on the value of using our strengths to feel more fulfilled, live a higher quality of life, and have much more fun at work and home.

Don’t just take my word for it! Martin Seligman, the father of Positive Psychology, says that for a person to be truly happy and live a meaningful life, that person must recognize their personal strengths—and use these strengths for the greater good.

(It’s a stance that Forbes, Gallup and the VIA Institute on Character are also taking pretty seriously, advising parents to focus on their children’s strengths, not filling an imaginary skills gap in their ‘weakness.’)

Bottomline: If we’re to take Seligman’s advice, we should spend time trying to figure out these personal strengths—what we were born to do—without wasting time on making things harder for ourselves.

So, that’s why I’m making it super easy for you to do just that…

And developed a Midlife Advantage Quiz to help YOU shine a light on your own unique superpowers—and leverage your strengths to navigate midlife on your own terms.

In it you’ll discover a personalized roadmap to:

Swap the ‘I thought I’d be further ahead’ nonsense we ALL revert to, with ‘I’m open to feeling more happiness now,’ so you can live life as an opportunity (versus just existing).
Feel more motivated than ever to shift your energy, make the changes you want in your life and find more purpose and fulfillment
Handle life’s disruptions head-on, start navigating life on your terms, and do ALL the things that might’ve scared you in the past—because I’m not letting you leave this world with regrets!

Plus, I’ll also let you into some secret insights from my own life along the way…

Because, I’m telling you—leaning into your strengths is a waaay more fulfilling way to live than endlessly trying to fix your life. Or popping another $90 on low-estrogen cream… 😉

TAKE THE QUIZ NOW….just press here!

Holly

P.S. Once you get your results, I’d LOVE to know how they resonated with you. Please reply back, tell me what you got, and if I nailed it.

Part II-Creating Optimal Outcomes

by Holly Boxenhorn | Jul 2, 2018 | Blog

CORE Energy…how to create an empowered energetic state.

We often hear references to the importance of building our core strength, but those references usually speak to the physical core. The importance of core energy*, the energy that is at the core of our thoughts, emotions, and actions is what we will be examining more closely this summer. This relates more to how people see themselves, those around them, and the world itself. A person’s core energy is where his or her energy is focused at any given time. A person’s core energy has a tremendous influence on their “performance” in all aspects of their life.

When one feels stress (tension/anxiety) and/or when you feel a lack of engagement (when you’re not choosing to do something or not motivated by it), your energy is drained and your potential for creating optimal outcomes/experiences is decreased. The way you respond to anything you’re about to do or the way you approach a situation or set of circumstances, is unique to you. But overall, an individual’s energetic state is effected and resulted by six key influencers: spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, social, and environmental. What doesn’t affect your energy in one situation may detract from it in another. Anytime you are not “performing” to the best of your ability, something is then blocking your energy and it is likely a result of one or a combination of these six key influencers.

When all of these six key influencers are ideal for you, you have your best chance for peak performance. You see having potential and fully using your potential are two entirely different things. Let’s use the example of gas in a gas tank. Think of your potential in terms of being like a gas tank and how much gas you put in that gas tank is where the six key influencers come into play. If you have all six key factors working at their utmost then your gas tank is full, therefore, you are able to access your full energy and create optimal outcomes and experiences because you now have a full tank of gas behind your potential (capabilities/talent). But what if suddenly one or two of these influencers are compromised in some way (which we will get into next newsletter), your gas tank will now only have half the amount of gas it requires to work at it’s full capacity. So without a full tank of gas (aka maximizing these 6 key influencers) it makes it more challenging to access your full potential because you don’t have a full tank of gas supporting it.

Bottomline, these six key influencers affect how you show up. By learning how these six key influencers are either detracting or supporting your ability to perform, you can create action plans and strategies to get you more ideal outcomes. Ultimately with time, as you learn more about how these six influencers effect you, personal patterns and trends are revealed that help you build a formula for greater success. Providing a performance checklist of sorts to ensure alignment with the best version of yourself as possible even when circumstances are less than ideal or maximize upon them when they are all on point.

Keep your eyes open for next month’s newsletter and learn more about how these six key influencers are relevant to your greater success and happiness!

Wishing You Always The Best Of Success
-Holly-

*Read Part I – “Creating Optimal Outcomes”

This newsletter contains my interpretation of the copyrighted work of Bruce D. Schneider and the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching.

Part I-Creating Optimal Outcomes

by Holly Boxenhorn | Jun 1, 2018 | Blog

The One Thing That Changes Everything.

When it comes to greater success and happiness the vast majority of us are simply unaware of why things go well for us one day and not the next. Sure, it’s easy to say it was just a good day verses a bad day. Everything fell into place, you happened to have been at the right place at the right time, and nothing unexpected or “messy” occurred. But we all know that life is challenging, for everyone, and at any given moment life can throw us a curveball or two. No one is excused from life’s ups and downs. So to chalk up our levels of success and happiness to good luck or misfortune, quiet frankly, is bullshit.

Rarely if ever, with the exception of a health issue, does our levels of capabilities, talents, and competencies change significantly from day to day or even moment to moment. Yes, we can become more skilled or apt at those things we practice over a period of time, 6 months to a year. But really our capabilities don’t change significantly on a day to day basis, especially not on a moment to moment basis. So why is it that we can feel one minute on top of our game and a few hours later on shaky ground. We all have experienced this before, great mornings followed by a crappy afternoon or a series of “on” days/weeks followed by what feels as if we hit a wall.

Think about it, maybe tomorrow you have a big meeting or presentation at work, possibly you’re planning to sit down with your significant other to have an important conversation about the kitchen you would like to redo. Perhaps tomorrow afternoon you’ll be negotiating an important deal (i.e. new car, home, or business venture) or be put in a position to make a go or no go decision about a health related matter pertaining to you or a loved one. What do you think is more important in that moment, your talent or the energy you’re experiencing?

Yep, it’s your energy, your energy behind how your talent will get used as well as the results you’ll get. How we show up-the energy we bring to any situation impacts the outcome or results we get. Your CORE ENERGY is the key driver and what matters the most. Regardless of how skilled and well intended you may be, we are all subject to various inner and outer elements that can either help or hinder our success and happiness. Without the right type and amount of energy the ability to show up and be engaged in life can be severely limited and sometimes not possible. By understanding and then knowing how to handle your core energy you can have a huge advantage in creating consistent success and fulfillment in your life.

So let’s get busy this summer, stayed tuned over the next couple of months for my summer series and learn more about the nuts and bolts behind creating an empowered energetic state that will undoubtably create optimal outcomes and experiences in your life.