What’s Holding You Back?
August 20th 2017 Insights
Concluding the summer series to Keys To Success Insights, we’ll end with exploring the last of the Big 4 energy blocks. Remember, as I have been sharing… when we are not achieving or are having limited success with what it is we want in and for our lives, it’s most likely a result of one of the four energy blocks that’s keeping us stuck. In the past few newsletters, we looked at limiting beliefs – things that you accept about life, about yourself, about your world, or about the people in it, that limit you in some way; assumptions – expectations that, because something has happened in the past, it will happen again; and interpretations – opinions and judgments that you create about an event, situation, person, or experience and believe to be true. It is now time to examine the last, but certainly not the least, of the big four energy blocks. The final block we’ll talk about – the gremlin – is the most difficult to overcome, because it’s the most personal and holds the most energy.
This barrier is within every one of us, we all have an inner critic. You know that little voice in your head? That voice that tells you not to try, don’t risk humiliation or defeat because you’ll only wind up feeling frustrated and disappointed so play it safe, aim small. That’s our gremlin, and the message from our gremlin screams we’re just not good enough to have what we want in and for our lives.
Regardless of any evidence to the contrary, the gremlin’s debilitating message bubbles up in many forms: “I’m not smart enough, experienced enough, attractive enough, etc.” It all comes back to a simple and quite vicious block: “I’m just not good enough.” Our gremlin is highly personal as it is rooted deeply inside us and carries the most intense emotional charge of any of the blocks we’ve explored. Your gremlin thrives on fear. When you hear its whispers, your motivation to try withers. You dread failing, feeling pain, and being embarrassed. You can even be scared of succeeding if the gremlin convinces you that you’ll fail eventually.
So what are some typical gremlins statements? Do you hear any of these statements from your own inner critic?
-Who am I kidding, I’m not ____________enough to have/achieve _________.
-I feel like such a phony, I don’t have what it takes to get this right.
-Nobody is really interested in what I have to say/offer.
-I don’t deserve ____________.
Being aware of your gremlin is the first step towards lessening its power. Identifying and revealing it for what it is….former pain, fear, disappointments, etc…you can come to see it in more objective terms and sap some of its strength. Admittedly, “gremlin work” can be quite involved and heavily tied into our emotional baggage. So don’t hesitate to reach out to set up a coaching session. I urge you to take some time to assess how your emotional baggage is showing up. Consider how limiting beliefs, disempowering assumptions, false interpretations and your inner critic may be playing out in your life. Though we may not have the option to pack up our emotions and ship them off to a faraway place, we can work together so you can learn how to take charge of them and limit self-sabotage.
You deserve more!
Wishing You Always The Best Of Success
-Holly–