It doesn’t have to be scary afterall!
February 2013 Insights
Recently a colleague of mine sent me a fun and inspiring You Tube segment called “Do you dare to dream?” Though I typically don’t indulge in much You Tube viewing the title peeked my interest. Well, suffice to say it was well worth the seven minute time investment. I found it not only creative and enjoyable to watch but subtly enlightening. Naturally, anyone who views it will have their own take on what they get out of it but for me what really resonated was its reference to the word change and how it is often seen as a “scary” word.
However, in this brief clip the narrator defines the word change differently. More in terms like enhancement or developing one’s self. He goes onto to share his view that those who are reluctant to create change, often believe change to be synonymous with having to lose what you have or who you are. This struck a note with me, and made me realize why people have such a strong reaction to the word change and what it implies. For so many of us, change is often associated with this all or nothing mentality. Either it’s this way or that, my way or his, black or white. But after considering the narrator’s perspective, creating change doesn’t really have to be this major life altering, big anxiety producing, scary thing. Rather consider seeing change less drastically. It is more about evaluating what’s not working for you, keeping what is, building on those strengths and trying on some new hats so to say. So that ultimately you will continue to move forward, grow and enrich your life and yourself.
“Even if you stumble your still moving forward”
“Change is hard because people overestimate the value of what they have and underestimate the value they may gain by giving that up”
James Belasco & Ralph Stayer
I share this insight with you because it seems like a kinder, more effective way to create change. Yes, I too like so many others can feel a bit overwhelmed by making changes in my life, even if I know intellectually it makes complete sense. Let’s face it change is difficult and often times filled with uncertainty.
But what if we consider a different approach, one that allows us to take respite from time to time in our comfort zones without indulging in them too long. So that in the end, we continue to challenge ourselves knowing what is truly important is not the outcome but that you are always still moving forward towards your goals. Remember, even what may seem to be an unsuccessful attempt to change, is still creating change.
“You miss a 100 percent of the shots you never take”
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying”
You didn’t fail you just learned what isn’t working for you. Now you have further knowledge, knowledge you didn’t have before that will aid you in reevaluating how you will go about creating additional change in your life. You see there is never an end to anyone’s potential so creating change should always be a life long endeavor.
I invite you to take a look at the You Tube video “Do you dare to dream”. Like me on facebook (direct link on original email, bottom of page) and view it there. I’d love to hear what you think of it and for those of you ready to create some change in your life, don’t hesitate to contact me for a complimentary session. I’d love to be a part of enhancing your life!
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